So you want to know how to talk to your kids about sex! For whatever reason, part of you knows that you should be able to talk about this stuff, but the other part is confused.
What do I say? How do I say it? Will I say too much?
Whatever your worry, let’s face facts: whether they are your own kids or someone else's, talking to kids about sex is tricky – damn tricky! It doesn't matter who you are, everyone finds it difficult.
But sex education doesn't need to be so tricky. Here you will find everything that you possibly need to know about sex education ie how to talk to your kids about sex.
Use the buttons below to navigate to the chapters that interest you the most. Each chapter contains the best (and most reliable) resources from around the web on how to talk to your kids about sex.
With a name like 'sex education' or 'sex ed', you can be forgiven for thinking that it is all about sex! Well guess what? It isn't!
Sex is only a very small part of what sex education actually is! It includes a whole lot of other really important stuff that you are probably already talking about!
So before you even think about how to talk to your kids about sex, you had better find out what sex education is actually all about!
So what is all the fuss about? Why do we need to talk to our kids about sex?
Believe it or not, but sex education is important for lots of reasons. There is plenty of really good research out there that tells us that sex education has positive outcomes for kids.
And if you don't believe me, here is some of the latest research from around the world!
Believe it or not, but sexual behaviour starts at a very early age. As kids get older, the way they behave and express these feelings changes, and they move through different, and normal, phases of sexual development.
By knowing what's 'normal', you can be ready for what to expect, even though it might seem a little uncomfortable at times! Also, by knowing what's normal sexual behaviour, it is easier to then spot the warning signs that something might not be quite right.
Here you will find some of my favourite 'parent friendly' resources on healthy child sexual development.
By younger kids, I mean the kids aged from birth to about 10 or 11 ie just before puberty.
This age group is a great age as they are very curious about the world they live in. So expect questions about where babies come from, the differences between the genders and lots of nudity.
Here you will find some of my favourite resources for talking about sexuality to younger kids ie the Under 5's and the primary or elementary school age.
Puberty is something that you will need to talk about with your child, possibly even sooner rather than later.
Here you will find some of my favourite resources on puberty that should help you with talking to your own child about growing up.
Talk to your child and let them hear about the changes that will happening to them from you, so that they can turn to you for the support, guidance and information that they'll need.
Please do let me know if you know of a progam that should be included in this list.
The teens or adolescence is when sexuality starts to become sexual, as your child finally starts to see sex as something that they may just want to do (instead of just being something that is found in a textbook).
As your kids reach their teens, they will start to look elsewhere for some of their information about sex.
Here you will find some of my favourite resources for teens that talk about all things sex related. Sites that are factual, but age-appropriate too! Have a look at them your self first, before showing them to your teen. You'll also find some sites that will help you with talking to your teen about sex.
The times have changed from when we were kids.
Sexting is one of those things that teens do. Is it something that you should be concerned about or it is just another rite of passage?
Here you will find some of my favourite resources on what sexting is all about and how to talk to your child about it.
Pornography is one of those topics that we all find difficult to talk about - regardless of how comfortable you might feel about sex.
Here you will find some of my favourite porn resources on pornography for parents and their kids to look at. These resources focus more on the 'talking to kids' aspect rather than trying to convince you that porn is harmful (something that you have probably already worked out for yourself).
And remember, the first conversation is always the hardest!
Talking to kids about sex can be hard for most parents, but talking about sexual abuse is even harder.
It is 'totally understandable' as to why so many parents prefer to stick their head in the sand!
Protective education (or Protective Behaviours) is about teaching kids to recognise unsafe situations and to seek help immediately.
It doesn't have to be 'too hard' and there are some wonderful resources out there that make it a lot easier to do!