Hi there, I’m Cath Hakanson.
When it comes to sex education, I’ve worn many hats:
Nurse. Clinician. Educator. Counsellor. Therapist. Consultant. Researcher. Author.
My friends call me a sexpert (and often call on my expertise), but I think my daughter sums me up the best: I am just a mum who talks about sex.
Yes, I do talk about sex a lot, in ways that strengthen relationships between parents and children. I love helping other mums and dads feel comfortable about having these conversations with their kids.
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I believe that if your kids can talk to you about sex…
they can talk to you about anything.
Which really means, I help parents:
- Improve their kid’s safety.
- Teach their kids self-respect, boundaries and appropriate behaviour.
- Be the one their children ask first (before they get mis-informed by the wrong source or make the wrong decision).
- Get the knowledge, skills and confidence to have conversations about sex.
- Get over their own stuff (the stuff that stops sex education completely).
- Navigate content so they find the wisdom, not the rubbish.
- Seize the teachable moments in a natural way (goodbye awkward sermons).
- Raise children who become teenagers more likely to talk to them about sex, drugs, parties and bullying.
Ultimately, I help parents have the kind of relationships with their kids they really want to have.
Relationships that feel safe, shame-free, secure and special.
I used to believe that parents should just talk to their kids about sex, but i soon realised that it isn’t that simple!
But after working with thousands of people since the early ‘90’s, I’m wise to the stuff that gets in the way of parents talking about sex with their kids.
I understand that even the mere thought of talking to your kids about sex, can make you worry. You may wonder:
- Will I say the wrong thing?
- Aren’t they too young?
- Will I sexualise her?
- Is this too much Information for him?
- If I talk to my kids about sex, aren’t I giving them permission to be… sexual?