Let’s Talk About the Birds and the Bees: Starting conversations about the facts of life (From how babies are made to puberty and healthy relationships) by Molly Potter is a comprehensive look at sex education for children.
This book is fantastic and literally covers everything a child needs to know about the birds and bees. At the back, it has tips for parents and even addresses some of the fears that parents have about talking to their kids about sex. It covers gender differences, the private body parts, what private means, what touching is okay, puberty, how babies are made, sexual intercourse love and much more. The author provides kids with the facts and doesn’t overwhelm them with unnecessary details.
If you just want the one book that covers everything, then this is the book to have. It doesn’t have the details of the bigger Robie Harris books, but it is simple and gets straight to the point in an age-appropriate way. And I would have to say, it is one of my favourite books and is one I recommend to parents all the time.
Let’s Talk About the Birds and the Bees by Molly Potter is ideal for children between the ages of 5 – 10 years of age.
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Hi, my name is Cath Hak from Sex Ed Rescue and today we’re talking about a great book I recently found. This 2017 book is called Let’s Talk About the Birds and the Bees by Molly Potter, a UK sex educator. The version I have here is from the library and it hasn’t been borrowed before. I honestly want to go off and buy my own copy soon, I love it!
I feel like the book’s description explains it well, ‘Starting conversations about the facts of life from how babies are made to puberty and healthy relationships.’ The book really does cover all these topics making it massive. From information for you, to information for your kids, it is diverse.
What I really love about this book is the few back pages. At the back, Potter has an information section for parents reading this. She addresses things like the anxieties you can have, things children naturally learn, things you may not know, and all sorts of information to help give your child sex education. This is really useful.
At the front of the book, there’s information for kids. Potter begins to tell us what sort of stuff we can find in the book. As she says, ‘It’s about where babies come from, what happens to your body as you grow up’ Then she talks about how, ‘…It’s good to know for some people sex is a very private thing and talking about it embarrasses them. You might find some adults who are happy to talk about it and some who aren’t and that’s why we call it the birds and the bees because it’s easier than saying sex.’
However, to start off, the book talks about the differences between boys and girls. There’s a drawing of a naked boy and girl with comments that talks about how and why they’re different.
Then, on the next page, it shows pictures of kids turning into adults and how that’s different. As some of the examples show, girls grow breasts, get body hair, and boys get larger penises and even more body hair.
Another topic is privacy; what parts of our bodies are private? To talk about it, the book describes what private parts are. Mostly, it talks about why they’re private parts and how we should treat them compared to our other parts.
When is touching okay? The fact that bodies are different is very openly discussed. It’s talked about why they need to be different. That, to make a baby, boys and girls need different genitals.
This book also brings in conversations about pedophiles and why they’re dangerous. After all, a large part of sex education is keeping kids safe. The fact that it’s talked about in this book is fantastic.
This book covers such a large range of topics, making it very effective.
Then the book talks about growing up and how puberty begins to happen. First, it begins with female puberty; how they change, what happens, and periods. All the information about this is very easy and digestible for children to read.
After girls, male puberty is talked about. How they change, the products they need, and all sorts of great stuff. This book really helps younger kids understand what to expect from puberty once they begin going through it.
Then, for many kids that also brings up the question of what puberty feels like. After all, puberty isn’t just about physical changes, but mental too. You experience different hormones and types of love towards other people.
Now, it also talks about sex. Here’s what one of the pages says, ‘How do grown-ups make a baby? Most of the time, a man’s penis is floppy and dangles between his legs. Sometimes, though when Mummies and Daddies cuddle in bed, Daddy’s penis gets firm. It sticks up instead of down. This means that his penis can be pushed into Mummy’s vagina. This usually feels nice for them both and we call it sex.’ As you can see, this description is very easy to read and understand. After describing sex to the reader, the book begins to go into more detail.
‘Do you make a baby every time you have sex? No.’ It answers questions kids might have about sex. Another one is why people might choose to have sex together. After all, is there another reason than to have babies?
The book describes how sex can be about feeling close to each other and having fun. Not just making babies. Sex is also a very private thing for grown-ups.
Potter also talks about what love is and how some families might be different. That’s important since some kids live in foster care, with their grandparents, or have same sex parents. So, that helps them feel more comfortable understanding other’s and possibly their own situation.
Then, it talks about what’s it like to be a parent. Why parents are important, what they do, and why they do things like split up. Yet again, this can really help kids come to terms with their situation or understand the world around them.
This book is everything you need to know about sex education. It is fantastic. It’s the sort of book I would love to write. But why try when there’s already fantastic books like this already out?
I really love this book. It covers anything you could want to talk about with your kids in simple details. While it may not have enough information as other books, it has enough to start a conversation and begin talking.
I hope this helped, Cheers.
I'm Cath, a sex educator living in Australia with my husband and 2 kids. I help parents to talk about sex (with less cringe and more confidence) and to empower their child to make smart sexual decisions. You can join my online parent support group here and visit my shop for helpful resources.