So how do you turn ‘whispering’ into an opportunity to teach your child something important.
Teachable moments should be your Number 1 strategy for sex education!
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[00:00:00] How do we turn whispering into a teachable moment? Let’s find out.[Music].
[00:00:15] Hi, I’m Cath Hak from Sex Ed Rescue and this YouTube channel is all about sex education. Each week, we share a teachable moment and this week is all about whispering.
There are lots of things you can talk about with whispering, but the first thing that I think of is secrets. Something we can do to stop our children being sexually abused is teaching them about what sort of secrets we can keep.
There’s lots of books on the topic, but my favorite is Everyone’s Got a Bottom by Tess Rowley. The book outlines important protective behaviors as it says, ‘We only keep secrets about presents and surprises, not of our bodies.’ That means if your family bought their dad a present for Father’s Day, they can understand that it’s okay to keep this secret.
Getting kids to keep secrets about birthday presents is hard, but it’s still important to teach that. If they’re having a surprise birthday party for dad on Father’s Day, it would be important to keep that secret. But we don’t keep other secrets. We don’t keep secrets about body parts, we don’t keep secrets about naughty things, but we do about presents.
Why do I think whispering is about secrets? Whispering is usually something you do because you don’t want someone to overhear what you’re saying. Sometimes you see kids whispering to each other and saying, ‘Don’t tell anyone else this, but…’ Also, kids being easy to control and being ignorant to secrets opens them up to pedophiles. Child predators will see if a child will keep a secret for them, and if they do, that child will be at risk.
When pedophiles begin grooming kids they’ll often say, ‘I’ll give you ten dollars if you don’t tell mum.’ Afterwards, they’ll subtly check to see if the parents found out. Usually, if they don’t, they’ll continue grooming and testing the child to make sure they don’t get them caught. Because, in the end, no one wants to get sent to jail. That’s why we should talk about secrets.
[00:03:07] This is a conversation that goes on for years and years, but it’s an important one. So, whispering is a great opportunity to talk about how we don’t keep secrets in our house. That, if you’ve got a secret to say, it’s okay to say it. There are more conversations out there, but that’s just one of them.
I hope this video helped. Cheers.
I'm Cath, a sex educator living in Australia with my husband and 2 kids. I help parents to talk about sex (with less cringe and more confidence) and to empower their child to make smart sexual decisions. You can join my online parent support group here and visit my shop for helpful resources.