Inside: Teachable moments are everyday opportunities that give parents the opportunity to talk to their kids about sex. They help make sex education a lot easier!
Teachable moments are everyday situations that give you an opportunity to talk to your child about sex.
They provide parents with an opportunity to bring up specific issues about sexuality with your kid. Teachable moments also help you to make sex an open, ongoing discussion with your kids.
Teachable moments are a simple and easy strategy that all parents can quickly master. You just need to start looking for them, work with them for a few weeks, and soon you’ll be having lots of discussions about sexuality with your kids.
You’ll find more information about sex education in my Sex Education 101 page.
A teachable moment needs 3 things.
First, it requires an open relationship between you and your kids – you need to be willing to talk with your kids about sexuality!
Second, you need a catalyst - an event or object that illustrates the sexual point ie the teachable moment. A catalyst is the conversation starter, the reason the teachable moment is occurring at that specific time and place.
Third, a teachable moment requires a sexuality fact. Sexuality is such a broad area that you can almost find a sexual message in anything.
Remember, there is more to sexuality than having sex. Talk with your child about all the other parts, like affection, trust, respect, responsibility, and intimacy.
Catalysts or the trigger/reason for a teachable moment can be found in a lot of places. They can be found in:
Basically, you can find teachable moment everywhere! Once you start looking, you will be surprised at how many you start to find!
To help you in noticing everyday opportunities that could become a teachable moment, you'll find over 30 examples.
Sometimes it is easier to find a teachable moment when you have a reason to talk.
For example, you may have a heard a story on the radio about the high number of kids accidentally finding pornography.
So you decide that you had better find a teachable moment so that you can talk about pornography.
By knowing what you want to talk about, you will find it easier to find that opportunity about the conversation.
It could be something as simple as noticing that your child is on YouTube.
You might ask them what they are looking at and then casually mention to them that they may sometimes find private movies or pictures on YouTube.
It could be just a short comment or it could be a 5 minute casual chat.
Teachable moments for sex education are a great way to make sure that sex education happens in your home. They provide everyday opportunities to casually talk about a whole range of sexual topics that you may not normally talk about.
My mission is to create resources that will help you to naturally talk to your kids about sex, all while respecting your personal values.
Which means that inside this website, you'll find lots of resources to help you with talking to your child about love, sex, relationships and growing up.
My Sex Education 101 page includes all of the information on sex education. You'll find lots of different blogposts to help with getting started, on a wide range of different topics.
You'll find videos about sex ed in my Sex Education Videos resource page that you can watch with your child or to learn more about sex education yourself.
You’ll also find an extensive range of sex education books for children, for kids of all ages. There's even some books in there for parents!
If you're looking for some ideas on how to talk to your child about bodies, How to Talk to Kids About Bodies, will help you to start naming the private body parts and to have shame-free conversations with them about bodies. It is filled with lots of different ideas on how to have natural converasations with your child about their body.
You'll also find some child friendly anatomically-correct cartoon illustrations of the genitals and internal reproductive organs that are appropriate for children from the age of 3 and up. Let's Look at Different Body Parts is a printable that will help take the awkward out of talking to your child about their body, so they grow up feeling educated, confident, and comfortable in their own skin.
If you need some help with explaining sexual intercourse to your child, then How to Talk to Kids About Sex, will help you explain sex to your child in a way they will understand. It breaks it down into simple steps that take the stress out of explaining!
If you're unsure about how to answer your child's questions about sex, then I have a number of different resources that will give you word-for-word answers that are age specific.
If you want a printed book to hold in your hands, then the The Sex Education Answer Book will give you age-specific answers to the most common questions kid's ask parents about sex. Which means you don't need to worry about finding a child-friendly explanation that your child understands.
If you want the answers to questions about a lot more than just sex, then Sex Ed Quickies is your best option. It has answers to 300+ questions that kids commonly ask parents, including how babies are made, sexual intercourse, body parts, puberty, relationships, pregnancy, birth, masturbation, sexual diversity, gender, pornography, STIs, contraception and much more.
I'm Cath, a sex educator living in Australia with my husband and 2 kids. I help parents to talk about sex (with less cringe and more confidence) and empower their child to make smart sexual decisions. To find a better way to talk about sex, you can join my community of parents and visit my shop for helpful resources.