Teachable moments are everyday situations that give you an opportunity to talk to your child about sex.
They provide parents with an opportunity to bring up specific issues about sexuality with your kid. Teachable moments also help you to make sex an open, ongoing discussion with your kids.
Teachable moments are a simple and easy strategy that all parents can quickly master. You just need to start looking for them, work with them for a few weeks, and soon you’ll be having lots of discussions about sexuality with your kids.
You’ll find more information about sex education in my Sex Education 101 page.
First, it requires an open relationship between you and your kids – you need to be willing to talk with your kids about sexuality!
Second, you need a catalyst – an event or object that illustrates the sexual point ie the teachable moment. A catalyst is the conversation starter, the reason the teachable moment is occurring at that specific time and place.
Third, a teachable moment requires a sexuality fact. Sexuality is such a broad area that you can almost find a sexual message in anything. Remember, there is more to sexuality than having sex. Talk with your child about all the other parts, like affection, trust, respect, responsibility, and intimacy.
Catalysts (or teachable moments) can be found in a lot of places. They can be found in:
Basically, you can find teachable moment everywhere! Once you start looking, you will be surprised at how many you start to find!
You can find videos with many examples of teachable moments here.
Sometimes it is easier to find a teachable moment when you have a reason to talk. For example, you may have a heard a story on the radio about the high number of kids accidentally finding pornography. So you decide that you had better find a teachable moment so that you can talk about pornography. By knowing what you want to talk about, you will find it easier to find that opportunity about the conversation. It could be something as simple as noticing that your child is on YouTube. You might ask them what they are looking at and then casually mention to them that they may sometimes find private movies or pictures on YouTube. It could be just a short comment or it could be a 5 minute discussion.
Teachable moments for sex education are a great way to make sure that sex education happens in your home. They provide everyday opportunities to casually talk about a whole range of sexual topics that you may not normally talk about.