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Dating and Sex by Andrew P. Smiler

Book Review:  A book for boys that tells them everything they need to know about dating, relationships and sex.

Book Review

Dating and Sex by Andrew P. Smiler is a guide for the 21st century teen boy. It includes all the information that teenage boys want to know and also what they need to know, about dating, sex and relationships.

This American book was published midway through 2016, and is one of the new books that are out there for boys about growing up after puberty. There's a couple of other books, like this, that have been published for teenage boys too. This one has a lot of content and is pretty thick with 250-260 pages. Inside, it is like a novel ie lots of words, and small print. There is a lot of reading so you wouldn't want to give to a child who is not a good reader. This book is definitely a book for older teens - the 13 - 16 year old age group.

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The idea of books like Dating and Sex by Andrew P. Smiler, is that it is almost an encyclopaedia of all the stuff that teen boys want to know about (and need to know about). At the back, it has an index with a lot of topics. Things like the frequency of dating, balancing time with dating, dating relationships, hiding dating relationships from influence on having sex. The index is really big. Plus there are lots of references listed too. This isn't just a book that's been written ad lib. It's a book that's actually supported by a whole lot of research. There's also a really good resource list at the back, as well, of places that you can get more information, as well. It's like an encyclopaedia.

Why would you buy a book like this for your teenage boy?

You buy books like Dating and Sex by Andrew P. Smiler because it is up-to-date, accurate, age-appropriate, and relevant. Which means that your son is going to have everything that he needs to know in one book which means, hopefully, they'll go to a book like this instead of googling it. Once they start Googling, that's when they find the content that's often inaccurate, incorrect and with values that do not match family values.  I have found the strangest sexual advice online, stuff that even I had trouble working out if it was accurate or not. Kids just don't have the knowledge and skill to be able to work out what is real or not.

As a parent, it's important to be able to give our kids good sources of information. This book does just that. So, what's inside this book then:

  • Dating and hooking up
  • Asking someone out
  • Making love last: how to have a long-term relationship
  • Dating and being sexual: private relationships and public knowledge
  • Consent: giving it and receiving it
  • Solo sex: being sexual with yourself
  • Partnered sex: being sexual with someone else
  • Being sexual and being safe: protecting yourself and your partner
  • Realities and stereotypes: gender roles and sexual orientations
  • Puberty: physical and personal

Dating and Sex by Andrew P. Smiler is a really good book, and the actual copy that I have here is a library book. I am so impressed with it that I am going to order my own copy (for myself and my own kids).

Dating and Sex: A guide for the 21st century teen boy by Andrew P. Smiler, is the book that all teenage boys need to have. It includes everything that they want to know as well as what they need to know. It is the sort of book that all teenage boys should have by their bedside.

Ideal ages

Dating and Sex: A guide for the 21st century teen boy by Andrew P. Smiler is ideal for children aged 14+ years of age.

Buy a copy

You can buy a copy of Dating and Sex: A guide for the 21st century teen boy  from Amazon or  Book Depository.

You can find more books like this in my extensive list of Sex Education Books for Children.

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Which means that inside this website, you'll find lots of resources to help you with talking to your child about love, sex, relationships and growing up.

My Sex Education 101 page includes all of the information on sex education. You'll find lots of different blogposts to help with getting started, on a wide range of different topics.

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If you're looking for some ideas on how to talk to your child about bodies, How to Talk to Kids About Bodies, will help you to start naming the private body parts and to have shame-free conversations with them about bodies. It is filled with lots of different ideas on how to have natural converasations with your child about their body. 

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If you want a printed book to hold in your hands, then the  The Sex Education Answer Book will give you age-specific answers to the most common questions kid's ask parents about sex. Which means you don't need to worry about finding a child-friendly explanation that your child understands. 

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About the Author Cath Hakanson

I'm Cath, a sex educator living in Australia with my husband and 2 kids. I help parents to talk about sex (with less cringe and more confidence) and empower their child to make smart sexual decisions. To find a better way to talk about sex, you can join my community of parents and visit my shop for helpful resources.

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