cover of How To Text Boys by Kelli Dunham

How To Text Boys by Kelli Dunham

Inside:  A book that girls should be given with their first cell or mobile phone.

About this book

How To Text Boys and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media by Kelli Dunham, is the book that all tweens and young teens need to be given alongside their first phone.

A great book for parents to read on how to start navigating the perils of parenting a cyber-using  teen.

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Ideal ages

How To Text Boys and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media is ideal for children between the ages of 10 - 13 years of age.

Buy a copy

You can buy a copy of How To Text Boys and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media from Amazon or  Book Depository.

You can find more books like this in my extensive list of Sex Education Books for Children.

Video book review

Read the video transcription

​Kelli Dunham is an American nurse who writes a lot of books about puberty and growing up. She's also written the Boy's Body Book and the Girl's Body Book. And she has another version of this book that is called How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media.

​​This is her latest book, which came out in late 2016, so in the last year. Being a teenager is different nowadays and kids just can't switch off from their peers. When we were kids, we went to school, we came home and if you saw your friends, you saw them. Nowadays those, kids have phones from a very young age. They get on Facebook, they go home, they go to school, they see their friends, they come home and they're on their phone texting or they're on social media. They don't switch off. So there's a whole host of new problems and new social issues that we as parents don't know how to deal with. And we're having to help our kids deal with it. Books like this are just so important because it actually gives you the opportunity to start having conversations about these issue with your child. Plus, this book, How To Text Boys and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media, provides some good evidence based guidelines on what you should do.

If you look inside visually, lots of pictures like, so  lots of images, lots of words. It's a chapter book, but there's images and it's got nice variation in colour and font and stuff so that it's an easy read.

Topics inside include:

  • Self-esteem online: you are more than your likes. It is important for girls to be aware of that. It really is a superficial world, the online world.
  • Social media, safety and saviness. Which is about 'do not send anybody boob photos', and that sort of stuff.
  • Setting boundaries with friends and crushes.
  • Digital vacations: how to give yourself a break when you need one. Look, that one's important. I think as parents we need to set a good example. If you're sitting at the dinner table or coming home and you're constantly on your phone and then your kids are doing the same thing, well you're modelling. You're telling, or showing them, what's acceptable behaviour. We need to set an example, I think, of acceptable behaviour and if your kids haven't yet got a phone and got onto social media, start setting those examples now so that it's a little bit easier as they get older.
  • The nuts and bolts of successful communication online and offline. This isn't just about online communication, but about verbally communicating with your peers and likes.
  • Starting conversations and making small talk with new crushes and new friends.
  • Texting with grownups
  • Controlling your reputation online
  • And much more

It's all really good valuable information. Look, this is a library book that I've borrowed because I like to borrow books now before I buy (because sometimes they're not books I really want or will use). But this book, How To Text Boys and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media  and the one on how to text girls, are definitely some books that I'll be grabbing because I think they're fantastic.

I actually want to sit and read these books from cover to cover myself and see what I as a parent can learn as well so that I'm ready for adolescence. My daughter's just in her last year of primary school so we'll be doing high school soon. And she'll be getting the local bus to school so we'll need to look at getting a mobile phone. And she'll probably end up on social media because that's what they all do.

For me as a parent, I want to start having these conversations with my daughter, but I also need to have a little bit of an arsenal of knowledge before we start talking.

Anyway, I hope that helps. Cheers.

Resources

My mission is to create resources that will help you to naturally talk to your kids about sex, all while respecting your personal values.

Which means that inside this website, you'll find lots of resources to help you with talking to your child about love, sex, relationships and growing up.

My Sex Education 101 page includes all of the information on sex education. You'll find lots of different blogposts to help with getting started, on a wide range of different topics.

My Puberty 101 page includes all of the information on puberty. You'll find lots of different blogposts to help with talking to your child about growing up.

You'll find videos about sex ed in my Sex Education Videos resource page that you can watch with your child or to learn more about sex education yourself.

You’ll also find an extensive range of sex education books for children, for kids of all ages. There's even some books in there for parents! 

If you're looking for some ideas on how to talk to your child about bodies, Let's Talk About Bodies, will help you to start naming the private body parts and to have shame-free conversations with them about bodies. It is filled with lots of different ideas on how to have natural converasations with your child about their body. 

You'll also find some child friendly anatomically-correct cartoon illustrations of the genitals and internal reproductive organs that are appropriate for children from the age of 3 and up. Let's Look at Different Body Parts is a printable that will help take the awkward out of talking to your child about their body, so they grow up feeling educated, confident, and comfortable in their own skin.

If you're worried that talking to your child about bodies might lead to questions about sex, then you can relax. Let's Talk About Sex, will help you to explain sexual intercourse to your child in a way they will understand. It breaks sex down into simple steps that  take the stress out of explaining!

If your're unsure about how to answer your child's questions about sex, then The Sex Education Answer Book will give you age-specific answers to the most common questions kid's ask parents about sex.  Which means you don't need to worry about finding a child-friendly explanation that your child understands. 

About the Author Cath Hakanson

I'm Cath, a sex educator living in Australia with my husband and 2 kids. I help parents to talk about sex (with less cringe and more confidence) and empower their child to make smart sexual decisions. To find a better way to talk about sex, you can join my community of parents and visit my shop for helpful resources.

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