Book Review: A book that girls should be given with their first cell or mobile phone.
A short overview of this book
How To Text Boys and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media by Kelli Dunham, is the book that all tweens and young teens need to be given alongside their first phone.
A great book for parents to read on how to start navigating the perils of parenting a cyber-using teen.
What’s the ideal age for this book?
How To Text Boys and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media is ideal for children between the ages of 10 – 13 years of age.
Have a look through the book
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Kelli Dunham is an American nurse who writes a lot of books about puberty and growing up. She’s also written the Boy’s Body Book and the Girl’s Body Book. And she has another version of this book that is called How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media.
This is her latest book, which came out in late 2016, so in the last year. Being a teenager is different nowadays and kids just can’t switch off from their peers. When we were kids, we went to school, we came home and if you saw your friends, you saw them. Nowadays those, kids have phones from a very young age. They get on Facebook, they go home, they go to school, they see their friends, they come home and they’re on their phone texting or they’re on social media. They don’t switch off. So there’s a whole host of new problems and new social issues that we as parents don’t know how to deal with. And we’re having to help our kids deal with it. Books like this are just so important because it actually gives you the opportunity to start having conversations about these issue with your child. Plus, this book, How To Text Boys and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media, provides some good evidence-based guidelines on what you should do.
If you look inside visually, lots of pictures like, so lots of images, lots of words. It’s a chapter book, but there are images and it’s got nice variation in colour and font and stuff so that it’s an easy read.
Topics inside include:
- Self-esteem online: you are more than your likes. It is important for girls to be aware of that. It really is a superficial world, the online world.
- Social media, safety and savviness. Which is about ‘do not send anybody boob photos’, and that sort of stuff.
- Setting boundaries with friends and crushes.
- Digital vacations: how to give yourself a break when you need one. Look, that one’s important. I think as parents we need to set a good example. If you’re sitting at the dinner table or coming home and you’re constantly on your phone and then your kids are doing the same thing, well you’re modelling. You’re telling or showing them, what’s acceptable behaviour. We need to set an example, I think, of acceptable behaviour and if your kids haven’t yet got a phone and got onto social media, start setting those examples now so that it’s a little bit easier as they get older.
- The nuts and bolts of successful communication online and offline. This isn’t just about online communication, but about verbally communicating with your peers and likes.
- Starting conversations and making small talk with new crushes and new friends.
- Texting with grownups
- Controlling your reputation online
- And much more
It’s all really good valuable information. Look, this is a library book that I’ve borrowed because I like to borrow books now before I buy (because sometimes they’re not books I really want or will use). But this book,How To Text Boys and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media and the one on how to text girls, are definitely some books that I’ll be grabbing because I think they’re fantastic.
I actually want to sit and read these books from cover to cover myself and see what I as a parent can learn as well so that I’m ready for adolescence. My daughter’s just in her last year of primary school so we’ll be doing high school soon. And she’ll be getting the local bus to school so we’ll need to look at getting a mobile phone. And she’ll probably end up on social media because that’s what they all do.
For me as a parent, I want to start having these conversations with my daughter, but I also need to have a little bit of an arsenal of knowledge before we start talking.
Anyway, I hope that helps. Cheers.