How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media by Kelli Dunham, is the book that all tweens and young teens need to be given alongside their first phone.
How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media by Kelli Dunham. Now, Kelli Dunham is an American nurse who writes a lot of books about puberty and growing up. She’s also written the Boy’s Body Book and the Girl’s Body Book. And she has another version of this book that is called How To Text Boys and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media. This book has everything that you need to know about friendships, crushes and social media. This book was published in 2016. The book that I have for this book review isactually a library copy. But I’m actually going to order these books for myself because they’re the sort of books that I would like my daughter to look at. Especially because she’s going to high school in the next year and she’ll be getting her first phone. So we need to start talking about this sort of stuff and I think this is just a great way to introduce it.
Kelli Dunham is a nurse who is also a comedian but she also writes really good books. If you look inside the book, visually, it’s a beautiful book. There’s lots of images, it’s nice and thick, it feels great to hold. It’s not too big and she breaks it up into sections beautifully. How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media doesn’t have an index at the back but the headings make it very easy to find what you need.
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Topics inside include:
How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media talks about the fact that as you get older and puberty kicks in, relationships change and that relationships with friends becomes quite important. So it talks about different ways to communicate. It talks about the different types of relationships that you can have. In that you can have a face to face relationship, but then you can have another type of relationship where you only ever communicate on your phone by sending someone messages.
The author provides quite good examples of good conversations and bad conversations. For example, she has lots of visual images of text messages.
Then it gets into the question of when am I old enough for a crush? How do I know if I’m ready? Why do girls get romantic? How do I tell my parents about this stuff? How do I talk to my parents about crushes? It talks about conversations online and how to be confident and not naive.
How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media also talks about self esteem and being careful about what you’re putting online. Other things it talks about, are when to be careful online. How to not be online too much. It talks about conversations and the good ways to communicate with other people. How to stand up to peer pressure. How to start talking and lots of really good information.
Self-esteem online. You’re more than your likes. Social media safety and savviness, setting boundaries with friends and crushes. Digital vacations; how to give yourself a break when you need one. As parents I think it’s up to us to model this as well. As in, if we’re constantly on our phone doing stuff, our kids are going to be doing the same. So we need to set an example and show them the sort of behaviour that we would expect or like from them.
The nuts and bolts of successful communication online and offline. Starting conversations and making small talk with new crushes and new friends. So important! Do you remember what it was like yourself, going through that liking a boy or liking a girl and not being able to talk to them. Blushing and not having the right words or saying silly stuff. Texting with grownups, controlling your reputation online and much more.
Look, this is definitely a book that I’m going to order for my own kids. It’s a beautiful book and I think it’s one that us parents should be reading. As soon as your kids have got a phone or are starting to use social media, they should be reading a book like this. I think it’s a really important book.
You can watch my video review of How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media below.
How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media by Kelli Dunham, is the book that all tweens and young teens need to be given alongside their first phone. Also a great book for parents to read on how to start navigating the perils of parenting a cyber using teen.
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I'm Cath, a sex educator living in Australia with my husband and 2 kids. I help parents to talk about sex (with less cringe and more confidence) and to empower their child to make smart sexual decisions. You can join my online parent support group here and visit my shop for helpful resources.