cover of How To Text Girls by Kelli Dunham

How To Text Girls by Kelli Dunham

Inside:  A book for girls that should be given alongside their first phone!

About this book

How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media by Kelli Dunham, is the book that all tweens and young teens need to be given alongside their first phone.

​Also a great book for parents to read on how to start navigating the perils of parenting a cyber using teen.

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Ideal ages

How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media is ideal for children between the ages of 10 - 13 years of age.

Buy a copy

You can buy a copy of How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media from Amazon or  Book Depository.

You can find more books like this in my extensive list of Sex Education Books for Children.

Video book review

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​Kelli Dunham is an American nurse who writes a lot of books about puberty and growing up. She's also written the Boy's Body Book and the Girl's Body Book. And she has another version of this book that is called How To Text Boys and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media. This book has everything that you need to know about friendships, crushes and social media. This book was published in 2016. The book that I have for this book review isactually a library copy. But I'm actually going to order these books for myself because they're the sort of books that I would like my daughter to look at. Especially because she's going to high school in the next year and she'll be getting her first phone. So we need to start talking about this sort of stuff and I think this is just a great way to introduce it.

Kelli Dunham is a nurse who is also a comedian but she also writes really good books. If you look inside the book, visually, it's a beautiful book. There's lots of images, it's nice and thick, it feels great to hold. It's not too big and she breaks it up into sections beautifully. How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media doesn't have an index at the back but the headings make it very easy to find what you need.

​Topics inside include:

  • Self-esteem online: you are more than your likes. It is important for girls to be aware of that. It really is a superficial world, the online world.
  • Social media, safety and saviness. Which is about 'do not send anybody boob photos', and that sort of stuff.
  • Setting boundaries with friends and crushes.
  • Digital vacations: how to give yourself a break when you need one. Look, that one's important. I think as parents we need to set a good example. If you're sitting at the dinner table or coming home and you're constantly on your phone and then your kids are doing the same thing, well you're modelling. You're telling or showing them, what's acceptable behaviour. We need to set an example, I think, of acceptable behaviour and if your kids haven't yet got a phone and got onto social media, start setting those examples now so that it's a little bit easier as they get older.
  • The nuts and bolts of successful communication online and offline. This isn't just about online communication, but about verbally communicating with your peers and likes.
  • Starting conversations and making small talk with new crushes and new friends.
  • Texting with grownups
  • Controlling your reputation online
  • And much more

How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media talks about the fact that as you get older and puberty kicks in, relationships change and that relationships with friends becomes quite important. So it talks about different ways to communicate. It talks about the different types of relationships that you can have.  In that you can have a face to face relationship, but then you can have another type of relationship where you only ever communicate on your phone by sending someone messages.

The author provides quite good examples of good conversations and bad conversations. For example, she has lots of visual images of text messages.

Then it gets into the question of when am I old enough for a crush? How do I know if I'm ready? Why do girls get romantic? How do I tell my parents about this stuff? How do I talk to my parents about crushes? It talks about conversations online and how to be confident and not naive.

How To Text Girls and Everything You Need to Know About Friendships, Crushes and Social Media also talks about self esteem and being careful about what you're putting online.  Other things it talks about, are when to be careful online. How to not be online too much. It talks about conversations and the good ways to communicate with other people. How to stand up to peer pressure. How to start talking and lots of really good information.

Self-esteem online. You're more than your likes. Social media safety and savviness, setting boundaries with friends and crushes. Digital vacations; how to give yourself a break when you need one. As parents I think it's up to us to model this as well. As in, if we're constantly on our phone doing stuff, our kids are going to be doing the same. So we need to set an example and show them the sort of behaviour that we would expect or like from them.

The nuts and bolts of successful communication online and offline. Starting conversations and making small talk with new crushes and new friends. So important! Do you remember what it was like yourself, going through that liking a boy or liking a girl and not being able to talk to them. Blushing and not having the right words or saying silly stuff. Texting with grownups, controlling your reputation online and much more.

Look, this is definitely a book that I'm going to order for my own kids. It's a beautiful book and I think it's one that us parents should be reading. As soon as your kids have got a phone or are starting to use social media, they should be reading a book like this. 

Resources

My mission is to create resources that will help you to naturally talk to your kids about sex, all while respecting your personal values.

Which means that inside this website, you'll find lots of resources to help you with talking to your child about love, sex, relationships and growing up.

My Sex Education 101 page includes all of the information on sex education. You'll find lots of different blogposts to help with getting started, on a wide range of different topics.

My Puberty 101 page includes all of the information on puberty. You'll find lots of different blogposts to help with talking to your child about growing up.

You'll find videos about sex ed in my Sex Education Videos resource page that you can watch with your child or to learn more about sex education yourself.

You’ll also find an extensive range of sex education books for children, for kids of all ages. There's even some books in there for parents! 

If you're looking for some ideas on how to talk to your child about bodies, Let's Talk About Bodies, will help you to start naming the private body parts and to have shame-free conversations with them about bodies. It is filled with lots of different ideas on how to have natural converasations with your child about their body. 

You'll also find some child friendly anatomically-correct cartoon illustrations of the genitals and internal reproductive organs that are appropriate for children from the age of 3 and up. Let's Look at Different Body Parts is a printable that will help take the awkward out of talking to your child about their body, so they grow up feeling educated, confident, and comfortable in their own skin.

If you're worried that talking to your child about bodies might lead to questions about sex, then you can relax. Let's Talk About Sex, will help you to explain sexual intercourse to your child in a way they will understand. It breaks sex down into simple steps that  take the stress out of explaining!

If your're unsure about how to answer your child's questions about sex, then The Sex Education Answer Book will give you age-specific answers to the most common questions kid's ask parents about sex.  Which means you don't need to worry about finding a child-friendly explanation that your child understands. 

About the Author Cath Hakanson

I'm Cath, a sex educator living in Australia with my husband and 2 kids. I help parents to talk about sex (with less cringe and more confidence) and empower their child to make smart sexual decisions. To find a better way to talk about sex, you can join my community of parents and visit my shop for helpful resources.

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