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Kids and porn: How to talk about it

If you think talking about sex is hard, then talking about kids and porn is an even harder conversation to start!

Starting a conversation about a tough topic, like kids and porn, can be pretty challenging for every parent.

We  know that there is something that we want to talk about, but we just aren’t quite sure how to start the conversation. This post looks at how you can use books to start a conversation about a tough topic, like kids and porn.

Kids and porn: there are 2 ways to talk

When it comes to talking to our kids about tough topics like kids and porn,  there are two ways that we can go about it.

First, we can answer the questions that our kids may fire at us. Luckily for us, kids are very curious about the world around them, and will often ask about stuff that they don’t understand or are curious about.

Second, we have to bring up the conversation ourselves. Not all of us have kids that ask questions about sexuality, which means that it is up to us, the parents, to find a way to bring up the subject ourselves.

The challenge then, is in how to bring up the subject of kids and porn, so that it doesn’t feel like a lecture (I don’t know about your kids, but mine will instantly stop listening if they think that there is a lecture coming their way). Which means that we need to find a way to start the conversation ourselves.

Books are one way to start a conversation naturally and casually.

 Books as a conversation starter

So how do we go about using a book for a conversation starter about kids and porn?

Well, you can read your kids a book on a certain topic, and chat about it whilst you read it. You can get some tips on how to read books about sex to your kids over here.

But you can also then refer back to that book later on, when you want to talk again about that topic.

For example, I might want to talk to my daughter about pornography.

There are a couple of ways that you could have the conversation.

You could say something like  ‘Hey, I was having a look at this book today and saw that there was a section on pornography in it. Have you found that sort of thing yet, on the internet?’

Or, something like ‘Hey, remember how we read that book last week where it talked about how sometimes you can find things o the internet that you don’t expect to find? Well, I was wondering if that has happened to you yet?

You can even refer back to a book to help with answering a question.

If your child asks you a question, like ‘What’s pornography?’, you could say something like ‘What’s pornography? Well, remember that book that we read, where they talked about how you can find things that you don’t expect when you go to the internet, well pornography is one of those things.’

You can then go back and reread the book together.

The joy of kids and porn books is that the books provide you with information that is age-appropriate and written in a way that your child will understand. We can use the words from the books in our own conversations with our kids. A trick that I sometimes use with my own kids, is to write a few points on a piece of paper, that I can then refer to during the conversation. This means that I don’t have to worry about remembering the exact words and I felt much less clumsy when actually talking.

Some more ideas!

You can find some more ideas in this video on the different ways that you can bring up a topic with your kids.

Other sex education books

 

You can find some other great books that talk about pornography age-appropriately, in this parent resource: Sex Education Books for Children: a Parent Guide.

All of the kids and porn books are fantastic books that will help you to start having conversations with your kids. And the kids and porn books mentioned in the video can be found at this site too!

The kids and porn books mentioned were ‘The Internet is Like a Puddle’ by Shona Innes, ‘Good Pictures, Bad Pictures’ by Kristen Jenson.

Make sure you go and check it out. It includes a lot of sex education books, on a wide range of topics, that will make talking about sex, a whole lot easier!

In summary

Talking about kids and porn can be pretty challenging but your kids are capable of understanding that pornography is harmful.  By using the right books, you can make starting the kids and porn conversation a whole lot easier! And remember, the first conversation is the hardest!

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