Book Review: A book for kids about the danger so pornography and what to do if they accidentally find it.
Not For Kids! by Liz Walker is a book that teaches children what to do if they find upsetting images whilst online.
This book helps to prepare children for the fact that they may stumble upon images online that upset. It steps them through how they should respond when this happens.
Not For Kids! by Liz Walker is ideal for children between the ages of 5 – 9 years of age.
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Not for Kids! Is a book by Liz Walker. Walker is a sex educator and sexologist living in Eastern Australia.
Now, what is this book about? Well, Not for Kids! Is a fantastic book to begin talking about pornography with your kids.
On the first page, the book reads, ‘My name is Millie and I am not very old.’ We then get more detail about who Millie is and what she is like. It talks about how she likes movies; sad ones, happy ones, all of them.
One day, while she is at school, she sees a movie that makes her upset. Not upset in the way movies usually make her, though. Even after she stops watching the movie, she cannot stop thinking about it.
The movie Millie sees is pornography. The book never states it by saying people are having sex or doing inappropriate things. It just says it was a movie about a grown-up thing Millie has never seen before. As we can see, this book has good, comfortable language that the average parent can easily use
After all, when we talk about this stuff, it is not about scarring kids. It is all about the parents feeling uncomfortable with what they are talking about. Easy language like this can help explanations a lot.
Back to the story; Millie goes back to her class but can’t forget about the movie. Eventually, she ends up going home early and her mum realizes she is upset about something.
After talking, Millie finally tells her mum about the movie. Her mum assures her that it’s fine and that movie was not meant for Millie. Also, if she’s ever upset about something or see’s anything else like that, she should come talk to her mum about it.
Then, the mum tells her strategies to deal with situations like this. For example; breathing slowly until you’re calm or listening to the little voice that helps you make good choices.
The book also mentions how Millie might always have vivid images from that movie in her head. That is a reference to how some researchers say you can have flashbacks and continue to remember things like this.
In the end, it shows Millie and talks about how she still likes to look at movies and pictures online. But, if she ever see’s something that makes her feel uncomfortable, she needs to talk to an adult about it.
Not for Kids! Is a good book to start talking about pornography with your children. There are only a few other pornography sex education books I know; around four to five, and all of them have their strengths and weaknesses. However, this is a good book on the topic.
I have read it to my six and ten-year-old children and would use it again. So, I hope today’s review helps, cheers.
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