The Sex Education Answer Book

Paperback, eBook, Digital Download (i.e. Printable PDF to download and either print or read on your computer, tablet or mobile) & web-based APP

Quick, easy, age-specific scripts that tell you exactly how to talk about sex with kids aged 3 to 14

Are you struggling to answer your child’s tricky questions about sex?

Feeling like you’re on tenterhooks every time your child starts to answer a question…

Overwhelmed by answering questions like ‘Where do babies come from?’ or  ‘What’s a blowjob?’…

Worried about saying too much, not enough or (even worse) the wrong thing…

Scared that your child is too young for this much information or won’t even understand the answer…

You’re not alone if you do!

Over the past 25 years, I have found that many parents struggle with answering their child’s questions about sex.

They want to know what to say, how to say it and when to say it.

​And they turn to me, looking for a solution.


Straight-forward age-appropriate sex education

Rebecca Sparrow, Author and mother of three

Cath Hakanson is my go-to person for straight-forward age-appropriate sex education for kids. This book is a bargain and I love how she has categorised it by age so I can flip to the 9 year old section or the 4 year old section to work out the best way to explain things to my kids.


Should be every parent’s guidebook

Lael Stone, TedX Speaker and Co-Founder of About Birth and mother of three

If the thought of speaking to your kids about sex sends you into a cold sweat, then this is the perfect book for you! Cath has taken a sensitive topic and turned it into easy, practical explanations that shall satisfy any child’s curiosity as well as soothe parents need to get it right. If you want to know how to answer your 4 yr olds question about where babies come from or your 9 yr olds question about puberty, then Cath provides age-appropriate responses, that will ensure you can have an open dialogue with your child. It is simple, factual and easy to understand and I think should become every parent’s guidebook to teaching their children about sex and sexuality.

So I created The Sex Education Answer Book

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The Sex Education Answer Book is available as both a book, a printable PDF and an APP.

Which means you’ll have answers to their questions at your fingertips, 24/7.

It includes:

  • Word-for-word scripts that provide you with the exact wording to use when talking to your  3 to 14 year old about sex (without telling them more than they are ready for).
  • Answers to over 200 questions on a wide range of different topics, including how babies are made, sexual intercourse, body parts, puberty, relationships, pregnancy, birth, masturbation, sexual diversity, gender, pornography, STIs, contraception and much more.
  • Web-based app so that you have the answers at your fingertips 24/7. It works right in the browser of your iPhone, iPad, android device or laptop/desktop. There’s no app or software to download and you just save the link to your device.
  • Printable PDF so that you can print it at home or read it without having to use a Kindle or download an APP to your phone.
  • Follow the prompts and give answers that are respectful of your personal values and beliefs. So that your child knows what behaviour is (and isn’t) okay in your family and faith. 
  • An overview of healthy child sexual development so that you know what sexual behaviours and curiosity to expect in your child. Which means you know whether to worry (or not).
  • Parent Guide that shows you how to use the scripts and encourages you to start by guiding you past the most common parental objections to sex education, so that you can get started, right away, without any hesitation.

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Includes a FREE copy of the Digital Download + Shipping (within Australia)

Direct Download + APP

Web-based APP & Digital Download (i.e. Printable PDF to download and either print or read on your computer, tablet or mobile)

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A resource that gives parent’s quick, easy, age-specific answers to their child’s sex questions

Are you ready to start talking to your child about sex? Before someone else does it for you?

Buy The Sex Education Answer Book and start talking to your child about sex NOW before someone else does it for you!

It is the perfect resource for answering questions or starting conversations with your child.

The biggest barrier to talking to your kids about sex, is knowing what to say, how to say it and when to say it.

The Sex Education Answer Book is the perfect solution as it provides you with age appropriate scripts that you can use with your own kids, regardless of their age.


Some questions you might be thinking!

Are you ready to start talking to your child about sex? Before someone else does it for you?

How does the app work?

This is how it works.

You open up the website on your device, save it to your Home Screen, and it will appear as an icon on your device.

When you need to use it, you just click the icon, and you will be taken straight there.

It’s as simple as that!

Is this book or app ‘right’ for me?

The Sex Education Answer Book is for busy parents who just want to get started with sex education, that is, parents who want to know what they can say to their kids WITHOUT giving them too much information for their age.

It is for straight talking parents who want to provide their child with accurate information that they will understand. Parents who also want their kids to come to them with their questions (and not the internet or the schoolyard). Parents who are concerned about the impact of negative sexualised messages on their child.

If you believe that kids shouldn’t know words like vulva, penis or sex, then The Sex Education Answer Book isn’t for you. The Sex Education Answer Book is very direct and talks about sex in a way that children can understand and not misinterpret. It helps you to talk about the stuff that kids are curious about so that you can satisfy their curiosity (instead of igniting it).

But what if I am Catholic or LDS or Muslim or…?

It doesn’t matter what your beliefs are as The Sex Education Answer Book just provides you with the facts. It doesn’t tell you what values you should be sharing with your kids. It is up to you to tell your child what behaviours and attitudes are okay and not okay. And don’t worry, The Sex Education Answer Book will help you to work out what values you want to share with your kids, so that your kids know what attitudes and behaviours are okay and not okay in your family. You’ll find prompts for adding your values.

But what if I believe in abstinence?

The Sex Education Answer Book will help you sharing your beliefs about sexual activity with your child – regardless of what you believe in. If you want to have any influence on what your kids eventually do about sex (e.g. wait for marriage), then you need to start planting the seeds of what you believe in early for it to have any effect! So inside you’ll find prompts for talking about abstinence.

Also, there is a difference between abstinence and ignorance. If you want your child to abstain from sex, you will have much better success if they are empowered with accurate knowledge as well as have a parent they can turn to.

But it is just too embarrassing!

Yep, I agree! I still feel embarrassment at times, when my kids ask me certain questions about sex. But the more that you talk, the easier it gets! Plus The Sex Education Answer Book includes some ideas on how to get past the embarrassment of talking about sex with kids.

Are my kids too young?

The Sex Education Answer Book is written for children aged 3 and over, and is broken down into each age. So the information will be age-appropriate. And remember, we don’t just start talking to kids about sex. We break it down into simple concepts that they can understand and we talk about things that they are already interested in. For example, when your 4 year old asks where they come from, they just want to know that they came from inside your tummy (or uterus). They don’t want to know about penises going into vaginas – that is way too complicated for their little brains!

Also, in the modern world of today, kids will hear a lot of sexual stuff that they just aren’t ready for. The Sex Education Answer Book will show you how to talk about inappropriate stuff in an age-appropriate way!

What if I say too much?

The Sex Education Answer Book will give you just the right amount of information for your child. It even provides you with extra information, in case your child wants to know more! And you can always go up or down a year, if it feels like there is too much information!

What if my child repeats what I have said?

That can happen but The Sex Education Answer Book will tell you what to do so that you can prevent this from happening.

Won’t I sound awkward?

Not to your kids, you won’t! The first conversation is always the hardest but The Sex Education Answer Book provides tips on how to sound more natural.

Haven’t I left it a bit late?

Possibly, but it just means that it is even more important than ever that you start talking now with your child now. The Sex Education Answer Book will show you how to make amends and catch up!

If I talk to my kids about sex, aren’t I just giving them permission to be sexual?

No, research tells us that it has the opposite effect. Kids that have had quality sex education are more likely to delay having sex, and when they do have sex, they are less likely to fall pregnant or catch an infection.


Pick & choose the responses that are most suitable

Vanessa Hamilton, Founder of Talking the Talk Sex & Health Education and mother of three

Cath Hakanson has successfully managed to provide, accurate and comprehensive information about a complex topic, laid out in simple, useful and easy to read language. Complete with indexed format – specific to each age and stage of development. An extremely difficult undertaking only a professional with her extensive background could achieve.

She has provided parents with not only the simplest answers about Human Sexuality and Sex, but has also added a couple of extra layers of optional detail as well. This means parents can pick and choose the responses that are most suitable for their specific family conversations and circumstances. This book should be every parent’s ‘go to’ as far as examples of actual wording for answers to the often dreaded Sex and Human Sexuality questions when they arise. I have not seen a book that addresses Sex and Sexuality conversations by age group so succinctly. Cath’s extensive experience and research means parents can completely rely on the quality and relevancy of the content. will be highly recommending this book to parents.


This is going to become a household bible

Callie Brown, Clarity Coach and mother of two

This is an EPIC resource for parents – take the confusion, pressure, embarrassment and fear out of connecting with your kids and answering their sex related questions in an age-appropriate way! This is going to become a household bible! Thanks Cath for bringing all your experience, knowledge together into one place! Your appreciation and commitment to support parents to create connected and open relationships with our kids is so valued – I now know my kids can come to me with ANY concerns and questions and I feel supported to answer them in a confident way!

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