Inside: A book that talks about the meaning of sex (without mentioning penetrative sex).
Tell Me About Sex, Grandma! By Anastasia Higginbotham is a book that will help parents to start conversations about the fact that sex is not just about making babies.
There are lots of books that explain sex to children, but most talk about baby-making sex ie how babies are made. This book is different because it provides a fuller description of sex, and focuses on the dynamics of sex instead of the mechanics.
The book starts off with a young child asking grandma about sex.
Grandma starts off by explaining that is okay to be curious about sex. This is important as it lets them know that it is okay to ask you questions. The child wonders what it is (and isn’t), why sex is bad, not spoken about and a secret.
Grandma explains that it is a grown-up thing. This is important as kids do need to be reminded that sex is just for grown-ups. Sex is also private which means it shouldn’t be seen or shown.
The author describes it as a thing you do with your body, moving it with someone (or by yourself ie masturbation) to feel good. And that we know how to do the moving because our feelings tell us what to do. The child asks if sex always makes a baby, which it doesn’t. The author explains that as you grow up, your feelings grow up too, which means you discover what sexuality means for you and who you will like.
Consent is talked about, in that you choose whether you want to, and the same for the person that you might be with. The child asks why grown-ups don’t want kids to know about sex, and the authors says that we want to protect children from growing up too fast. The message is shared that adults should not have sex with children (you could also add in that children should not have sex with children too).
I really like this book, and I think it is a book that parents should have on their bookshelf, as it provides you with the opportunity to talk about the other meanings of sex.
Tell Me About Sex, Grandma! By Anastasia Higginbotham is ideal for children between the ages of 6 - 11 years of age.
You can find more books like this in my extensive list of Sex Education Books for Children.
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