Book Review
A short overview of this book
Tricky People by Crystal Hardstaff is a children’s book for parents and caregivers to read to their children about consent, body autonomy, what is and is not ok, the warning signs, who are safe people, and how to listen to their instincts when something or someone doesn’t feel right. Stranger Danger is an old and outdated concept, and using the language of Tricky People helps empower and protect children.
The aim of this book is not to make children feel scared, instead, the goal is to introduce this concept in a safe environment and through age-appropriate language. Parents and caregivers will feel relieved to have this resource to return to and reread as needed throughout their child’s upbringing.
You can learn more on this page, about how to talk to kids about sex education.
Ideal Age
Ideal for children aged 4 to 10 years.
Buy this book
✅ Buy a copy of Tricky People by Crystal Hardstaff from Amazon.
Video Transcription
A transcription in case you are more of a reader than a listener
Hey there! I’m Cath Hak, and welcome to Sex Ed Rescue. This is where I help parents find an easier way to tackle sex education. Today, I want to review a book called Tricky People by Crystal Hardstuff. It’s an Australian book written for school-aged children, so it’s not just your typical picture book. It covers important conversations that you need to have with your kids.
One thing I love about this book is that it addresses a gap in body safety books for slightly older children. It’s hard to find resources for that age group, so this book really stands out. Let’s dive into it!
The book starts by introducing a family rule: no secrets. It explains why secrets can sometimes be a good idea, but also why they may not be. Then it goes on to talk about an important message: you’re the boss of your body. You have the power to make choices about what you do with your body.
The book goes into detail about different private parts, using gendered language like vulva and vagina for girls, and penis and testicle for boys. Now, I did notice that it labels the part of the body as testicles, but actually, the testicles are the inside part and the scrotum is the outside part. Both have a bottom. It’s just a small detail, but I believe that no child should feel left out in a book. Just something to keep in mind.
The book emphasizes the safety message that no one should be allowed to look or touch your private parts except for you. It also addresses situations where doctors or parents may need to help you with your body, even though you’re the boss. It’s all about keeping your body healthy and safe.
The book also touches on personal boundaries, like not liking it when people kiss you or stand too close. It teaches kids how to speak up and let someone know when they’re uncomfortable. Consent is another important topic covered, explaining how it works.
Remember the old stranger danger message? Well, this book goes beyond that and introduces the concept of tricky people. Tricky people can be strangers, but they can also be people we already know. It’s important to be aware that most sexual abuse happens with someone the child already knows. The book helps kids understand what a tricky person is and how to identify safe people. It’s all about listening to your instincts and paying attention to how your body and brain feel in different situations.
To wrap it up, the book reminds kids that they are the boss of their bodies, but their bodies also help keep them safe. It’s crucial to listen to what your body is telling you and take care of it properly.
Overall, I really love this book. It’s a fantastic resource for parents who want to have important conversations with their school-aged children about body safety. So go ahead and check it out!
Cheers,
Cath Hak
