What if? Answers to questions about what it means to be gay and lesbian by Eric Marcus
Short Summary
What If? Answers to Questions About What It Means to Be Gay and Lesbian by Eric Marcus is a clear, compassionate Q&A-style guide that helps teens and parents understand sexuality, identity, coming out, relationships, discrimination, and the challenges LGBTQ+ young people may face. Updated in 2013, it remains an incredibly informative and affirming resource for families.
Age Group
Suitable for children aged 14 to 18 years.
Topics Discussed
LGBTQIA+ Kids
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What this book is about
- What If? is a straightforward, text-focused guide that answers real questions teenagers often have about being gay or lesbian – without judgement, shame, or sensationalism.
- It begins with the basics, explaining what “gay” means, how it relates to LGBT identities, and the difference between sexual orientation and gender identity.
- The book addresses big, emotional questions teens commonly grapple with, such as: How do I know if I’m gay? Is it a choice? What does coming out mean? What if my friends or family react badly?
- It explores the history of attempts to “change” someone’s sexuality, making it clear why these practices are harmful and discredited.
- Chapters cover friendship, crushes, dating, long-term relationships, marriage, and whether gay people can or want to have children.
- It tackles misinformation directly, helping teens and parents separate myths from facts – including concerns about health, risks, and sexual behaviour.
- The book provides practical advice for talking to parents, navigating friendships, and dealing with difficult situations like rejection or gossip at school.
- Religion is handled with sensitivity, acknowledging that faith and sexuality can feel complicated, while also reminding readers that many people reconcile the two in healthy, supportive ways.
- It speaks openly about discrimination, safety, bullying, and activism, empowering young people to advocate for themselves and others.
- Although written for an American audience, the guidance is universal – especially the sections on self-acceptance, resilience, and building supportive relationships.
- Warm, direct, and incredibly reassuring, What If? is the kind of book that makes teens feel seen and supported, and helps parents better understand what their child may be experiencing.
I hope you find this book review helpful!
Happy talking!
❤️ Cath