When it comes to talking to your little ones about how a baby is made, then What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg, is the book to grab.
What I love about this book, is that it answers the question of how babies are made but it doesn’t mention sex! This is pretty important for a couple of reasons:
It allows you, the parent, to first start talking about the tricky topic of how babies are made, without having to actually talk about sex – which means that by the time you get to sex, you will be a lot more comfortable with the topic!
Kids actually aren’t interested in learning about sex, when they first start asking this question! They get interested in the technicalities of how a baby is made a few years later.
The book is also diversity friendly! Which means that it takes into consideration all the different ways that your child may have ended up in your family – two dads, two mums, IVF, surrogacy, adoption.
What Makes a Baby, is a good first book to have in your collection of baby-making books!
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What’s inside What Makes a Baby
This book talks about:
the fact that babies are made of something
they need an egg – not all bodies have eggs – some do and some don’t (this can help with explaining why you may have needed an egg donor to make your child)
they need a sperm – some bodies have sperm and some don’t (again, this provides that opportunity to talk about why you may have needed a sperm donation to make your child)
that the egg and sperm have many stories about the body inside (this can help with explaining things like why your child may have red hair and you don’t)
that you need an egg from one body and en egg from another body to make a baby (this can help with chatting about the fact that you may have had an egg or sperm donated from a donor)
that you need a place for a baby to grow (this can help with explaining that not all bodies have a uterus and that sometimes you need to use someone else’s to grow a baby)
a uterus is where a baby grows, some bodies have a uterus and some don’t (this can help with explaining why you may have needed to use someone else’s uterus to make your child)
where the uterus can be found
when the egg and sperm meet they join together and share their stories (this can help with explaining why your child may have mums nose but dads skin colour)
the egg and sperm can make a brand new thing which sometimes grows into a new baby (this can help with explaining a miscarriage or a neonatal death)
asks the question – who helped to bring the sperm and egg together that made you? (perfect opportunity to discuss how your child was made)
everything grows differently and in their own way (this can help with explaining to kids about why we are all different – perfect opportunity to explain disabilities too)
the baby gets bigger and takes 40 weeks to grow
it can come out when it is ready or sometimes it needs help (this can help with explaining how your child was born)
the baby needs help to come out and it comes out through the vagina or through a special opening below the belly button
the birth of a baby is a pretty big deal for everyone who has waited for the baby to be born (this can help with explaining the other people who may have been involved in the making of your child)
I'm Cath, a sex educator living in Australia with my husband and 2 kids. I help parents to talk about sex (with less cringe and more confidence) and to empower their child to make smart sexual decisions. You can join my online parent support group here and visit my shop for helpful resources.