Book Review: A book for boys about puberty and sex.
What’s happening to me? Book for boys was written by Lynda Madaras with her daughter Area Madaras. It is a puberty book for boys that talks about all the stuff that teens need to know about growing up.
This book was written by Lynda Madaras with her daughter Area. This book is an oldie but a goodie. The first edition came out in 1983, so 24 years ago, with the latest edition in 2007. So this book is 10 years old but it is still a good little book.
The author, Lynda Madaras, has written a whole series of books on puberty. I had to actually look at all of the books together, to try and work out what the differences between them all were.
The first book is called On your mark, get set, grow! It is a book for younger boys because some kids do start puberty earlier than their friends. So you don’t want to overwhelm a younger child with too much information about puberty. Also, sex is not discussed in these books.
The next book for boys is called My boy, My self for boys. It is targeting the tween and younger teen and includes activities that can be completed by your child. It has minimal discussion about sex too.
Then there is this book, What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys. It talks about puberty but it also talks about all the other things that go with puberty. Puberty is all about hormones, and the sex hormones don’t just change the body. They also change the way that we think about our friends, so that we start to see them in a different way, by starting to like them. This is the start of sexual attraction.
This book also talks about other relevant topics like; sexual attraction, sexual feelings, things you can catch, falling pregnant etc.
There is a lot of content inside it’s 220 pages. It is a thick book with lots of writing. It is like a novel or chapter book ie just row after row of writing. So you wouldn’t give this book to a tween who is struggling with literacy. You do need to make sure that it is at the correct reading level.
What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys starts off with puberty. It talks about what happens to boys, what happens to girls, and then talks about making babies ie sperm, ejaculation etc.
Then it talks about the beginning changes and the stages of puberty. So it talks about the first changes that happen, with an emphasis on the fact that every child is different ie for some kids, the changes happen faster and sooner than others. So it does normalise change for children.
It then goes into the owner’s guide of the sex organs what normal and what is not. So what I like about this, is that it talks about penis size. The long and the short, what is average. The myths about penis size.
When a boy is growing up and he is at swimming classes, he will start to compare the size of his penis to other boys. It is common for them to wonder, worry and to think that their penis isn’t normal or that it isn’t big enough. So books like this are good when they normalise the fact that they all comes in different shapes and sizes. Because our bodies are different, our faces are all different, therefore our genitals are as well.
What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys talks about circumcision and the growth spurt that happens with puberty. As well as pimples, body odor, sweating, hair, shaving and other things.
It then talks about how the penis actually changes so that you have erections more often. As well as the fact that the penis and testicles grow. It then gets into ejaculation , wet dreams and about how masturbation will now be different. Orgasm is discussed, which of course goes with ejaculation.
What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys talks about what happens with girls in regards to puberty. Then it gets into romantic and sexual feelings. This is about the fact that you might start to have different feelings towards your friends and peers, and why this happens. Same sex attraction, dating, falling in love, birth control, STI, rape and other topics like this, are also discussed. Pornography, sexting and social media is not discussed, as it wasn’t an issue when this book was revised.
What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys by Lynda Madaras, is actually a good little book, but I would like to see an updated version. If you are looking for a book that talks about a bit more than just puberty then it is a good book.
At the end of the day it comes down to personal taste, and choosing the book that you are comfortable with and what your child comfortable with. The value of books like this, is that you know that your child will be accessing information that is factual. Most of what they will find on google is unreliable.
What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys is ideal for children between the ages of 11 - 13 years of age.
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