What’s the Big Secret? Talking about sex with girls and boys by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown, is one of those ‘cover everything’ books, in regards to bodies, how babies are made, pregnancy and more. And it is kept nice and simple ie there is not too much information!
What’s the Big Secret? Talking about sex with girls and boys was written by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown. This is a great book that was published in 1997, so nearly 20 years ago. But it is a great little book that hasn’t dated at all. It covers the basics of what kids need to know about growing up, bodies and how babies are made.
What’s the Big Secret is like most other sex education books, when it comes to talking to school aged kids about sex. So, it starts off with how boys and girls are the same but they are also different. When it comes to things like clothes and hair, it means that sometimes we can all look the same. But there is a way to tell us apart – our genitals are different (vulva/penis/etc). I love the way the authors display the discomfort and giggling that can happen, when we talk about genitals.
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The book also talks about how boys stand up to urinate and girls sit down (kids actually find this fact very interesting). Then it talks about the different names of the body parts and that we should use the correct names and not silly names. It also acknowledges that it is okay to be interested in your body and to have a look at it and to be curious about other parts but to remember to do this in private. What’s the Big Secret? also talks about masturbation ie you can touch your genitals and it feels nice, but you have to do that in private. It also talks about the fact that our bodies can feel nice when they are touched. They follow this up with some rules about touching. It talks about it being okay to be hugged and touched if you want to.
What’s the Big Secret? then starts to talk about how babies are made, reminding us that all animals reproduce. So what does it take to make a human baby? Basically, it says the sperm and egg meet during sexual intercourse ie when a man puts his penis into the woman’s vagina. So it is kept nice and simple ie we don’t have descriptions of couples on top of each other having sex.
Then it talks about the baby growing on the inside of the mother, how the mother is waiting for the baby to come, and then the babies birth. It talks about the vaginal birth and not a caesarean birth.
All in all though, What’s the Big Secret?, is a good little book, and talks about the things that kids are curious about. It is a little old fashioned though, in regards to the fact that it doesn’t talk about the alternative ways that babies are made (IVF, surrogacy), and gender (transgender). But, considering that it was written nearly 2o years ago, that is to be expected.
You can also watch a video review of What’s the Big Secret? below.
What’s the Big Secret? Talking about sex with girls and boys by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown, covers a range of different topics but has a nice and simple age-appropriate description of how to start a baby. It would be a good book to start with if you want a book that covers more than one topic and doesn’t provide too much information.
There are a lot more sex education books out there, that talk about a range of other topics.
You can find them listed in this new FREE parent resource: Sex Education Books for Children: a Parent Guide.
Make sure you go and check it out. It includes a lot of sex education books that will make talking about sex (and puberty), a whole lot easier!
And before you choose a sex ed book, like What’s the Big Secret? Talking about sex with girls and boys by Laurie Krasny Brown, you want to make sure that it is the right book for you and your teen! There are a lot of books out there and what is right for me may not necessarily be the right book for you!
I'm Cath, a sex educator living in Australia with my husband and 2 kids. I help parents to talk about sex (with less cringe and more confidence) and to empower their child to make smart sexual decisions. You can join my online parent support group here and visit my shop for helpful resources.