Most parents, know that eventually they will need to talk with their kids about sex… one day.
Well, just in case you were still in denial or hoping to get out of it, I’m going to give you 13 good reasons as to why you need to have these important conversations with your kids. (…and yes, there are at least 13 advantages of sex education, if not more!)
You’ll find more information about sex education in my Sex Education 101 page.
This is what the research tells us about the advantages of sex education in the early years.
So what does that mean to me as parent? My kids are more likely to be happier with the body that have instead of wanting what they haven’t got! There is a lot of pressure today to have the perfect body and to look a certain way!
So what does that mean to me as parent? My kids will grow up with a healthy sense of what it is to be male, female or androgynous (both male & female characteristics). This is even more important if my child has genitals that look different (intersex) or if they identify as being a different gender as they grow up (transgender). Some stuff you can’t control, so it is important to keep an open mind!
So what does that mean to me as parent? My kids will grow up accepting that we are all different and unique (themselves included)! This comes in very handy when they start to notice the diversity around them in family, friends and the world around them.
So what does that mean to me as parent? If my kids can talk to me about sex, it means that they know they can talk to me about anything! From bullying to parties to having sex. No topic should be too shameful.
So what does that mean to me as parent? My kids know what behaviour is appropriate (eg. you are the boss of your body) and what is not appropriate eg. it is okay for our family doctor to look at your penis (as long as mum or dad is there) but it isn’t okay for the babysitter to look at your penis).
So what does that mean to me as parent? My kids are okay about the fact that their bodies are changing. They know that puberty is going to happen one day and that their body will change and that they will start to feel differently. Being prepared makes it a lot less scary!
So what does that mean to me as parent? If my child is being groomed or is sexually abused, I want to know about it. Being approachable means that my kids know that they can tell me anything. And that includes sexual abuse.
So what does that mean to me as parent? Research tells us that bodies and relationship education in the early years does help to protect kids from sexual abuse, as they learn:
I don’t know about you, but these are pretty good advantages of sex education! For both me and my kids! I am hoping that you are starting to see that the advantages of sex education, are well and truly worth it.
You start to see some really good advantages of sex education when your kids become teenagers. The teens years are where the hormones really start to kick in and sexuality begins to take on a sexual nature!
We know that good sex and relationship education has the following outcomes on teenagers:
So what does that mean to me as parent? That my teens will start playing around in a sexual way when they are ready and not just because their friends are!
So what does that mean to me as parent? I don’t know what your first sexual experience was like, but I would like to think that my teens will do ‘it’ because they want to and not because they were forced or pushed into it. I also want them to use contraception and use a condom for protection.
So what does that mean to me as parent? I want my teens to become parents when they are ready to and not by mistake!
So what does that mean to me as parent? If my kids understand what STIs are and how they are spread, there is a pretty good chance that they will avoid them.
So what does that mean to me as parent? Some STIs are treatable and some aren’t – but they all cause a great deal of stress for all involved! If my teens can avoid them, that is good news!
So, what do you think? Are there any benefits that seem really attractive to you? Do you see an advantages of sex education, that you really like the sound of?
Let me know below, in the comments!
(For me personally, I think the long term benefits are the ones that are really worth waiting for ie the ones for the teenage years! )