Secret Boys’ Business by Rose Stewart, Fay Angelo and Heather Anderson is a book for boys that provides them with simple and age-appropriate information about puberty.
Secret Boys’ Business by Rose Stewart, Fay Angelo and Heather Anderson was published in 2006 but, despite being over ten years old, it has not dated. The authors come from a very hands-on background. Fay comes from a teaching background, Heather is a Sexual Health Nurse/ Sex Educator and Rose is a teacher and School Psychologist. So they are dealing with this stuff everyday.
There is also a girl’s version. One for younger girls, Secret Girl’s Business, and one for older girls, More Secret Girl’s Business. They have also published the next step in books, The Secret Business of Relationships, Love and Sex.
Secret Boy’s Business is a great first book for talking to boys about puberty. Personally, I think you could use it from about the age of 9 or 10, possibly even at an earlier age. My 1o year old read it to her younger brother when he was about 6. He was totally uninterested in puberty but he did sit and listen to her, and by the end, he did understand that one day his body would change. I wouldn’t use it for kid’s over 11-12 maybe, just because girls and boys that age are starting to want to know a little bit more than what this book can provide them with. It all depends on how mature your child is and how curious they are about puberty.
Secret Boy’s Business covers a wide range of topics that are relevant for boys who are first learning about puberty.
It starts off by providing boys with a simple description of the changes, both physical and emotional, that happen at puberty. It starts off by talking about the fact that we all grow and change. We grow from being a baby all the way up to being an older person. It then explains what puberty is, why it happens, how it happens, and some of the changes that will happen.
The changes include growing taller, body hair, pimples, body odour, voice changes, penises, erections, and testicles. Information is given about the changes but also advice on how to manage these changes.
Secret Boy’s Business talks about the fact that penises are all in different sizes, and what you can do with them. Then it talks about the foreskin, showing you the difference between a penis with a foreskin and one without a foreskin. Talks about how to look after them, which I think is pretty important as well. Talks about erections and that sometimes they just happen for no reason at all.
It talks about testicles and sperm. What sperm means and how to look after your testicles. Also talks about semen and ejaculation and wet dreams as well, which is pretty important because boys need to know about this stuff (preferably before it starts to happen).
Secret Boy’s Business also talks about masturbation, and the fact that it’s normal and that some boys do and some don’t (and both is normal).
The emotional changes are also talked about. It talks about mood swings, how to manage some of your emotional changes, sexual feelings and that puberty can be embarrassing and uncomfortable for a little while, which gives kids permission to feel that way. Secret Boy’s Business At the back it has hints for parents on how to talk to their boys.
Secret Boy’s Business is a great little first book on puberty. The information is simple and very age-appropriate. It tells boys what they need to know and doesn’t overwhelm them with too much information. It uses lots of illustrations and the reading level seems quite appropriate for this age group – not too many big words! It is the book that I recommend that parents use when they first start talking to boys about puberty.
You can also watch a video review of Secret Boys’ Business below.
There are a lot more sex education/puberty books out there, that talk about a range of other topics.
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