Welcome to our blog post specifically designed to help you navigate the world of sex education for your fourteen year old! We understand that discussing this topic with your teenager can feel overwhelming, especially when it comes to finding information that is relevant to their current age and stage of development.
But fear not! This guide is here to make things easier for you. We have carefully curated a collection of resources and advice tailored specifically for starting sex education with fourteen year olds. Rest assured that the content we provide is suitable for their needs.
Every teenager is unique, but they all go through common stages of development. The resources you’ll find here will empower you to support your child as they continue on their journey towards adulthood, while aligning with your own values.
At fourteen, your child is at a pivotal age. They are beginning to shape their own identity and may be exploring or thinking about romantic relationships. However, they still need parental guidance, boundaries, and ongoing conversations as they develop their own beliefs about love, sex, and relationships. So the information we share below will be relevant for either starting or continuing sex education discussions with your fourteen year old.
And as your teenager celebrates their fifteenth birthday š, we’ll be here to provide you with sex education information appropriate for fifteen year olds too!
So let’s dive in together and get started on this exciting journey of helping your teenager navigate the world of sex education!
Unsure of what sex education is all about?
Watch Back to Basics my FREE webinar that will tell you what sex ed is, why you need to do it, what might stop you from talking, what to talk about and how to get started.
A 12 minute read on what sex education is all about.
Watch this Parent Masterclass to learn what to expect and how to develop key skills in sex education.
Got some last-minute doubts about sex education?
Read this blogpost as it will address your fears about sex education.
Read this blogpost as it explains the benefits of sex education, and how these conversations will empower and protect your child (instead of harm them).
And if youāre worried that youāve left it too late to start? Then relax, as you havenāt. As now is better than never. But you are going to have to work harder, as you will need to reestablish their trust and get them used to you suddenly wanting to talk about love, sex and relationships.
Missed out on sex education yourself? Or already forgotten what you were taught at school?
Watch this Parent Masterclass as itās the Adult Edition of Sex Ed and itāll update you as to what you need to know about safe sex, STIs, contraception, dating and more!
Unsure of what sexual behaviour to expect in your teen? And whatās normal?
Read this blogpost about healthy sexual development in children and the different behaviours you might see in your 14 year old.
Watch this Parent Masterclass to learn how to understand and support healthy sexual development in your teen.
Unsure of what sexual values and beliefs to share with your 14 year old?
Read this blogpost to learn how to talk to teens about sexual values and beliefs.
Use this WorkBook to help you decide which sexual values are relevant and what you could share with your teen now.
Unsure of what to talk about with your 14 year old?
Read this blogpost as it explains some of the different topics you can talk about with your teen.
Grab my parent guide about the many different conversations you may have with your teen about penises and vulvas, including hygiene, diversity in genitals, erections, masturbation, nudity and puberty.
Read this blogpost to find simple ways to talk to your teen aboutĀ consent.
Grappling with consent? Learn how to educate your child about giving ā and asking for ā consent in this popularĀ crash course about consent.
Read this blogpost to learn how to navigate gender in an inclusive way.
Read this blogpost to learn how to care for a penis and a foreskin.
Unsure of how to talk about masturbation?
Read this blogpost to learn the basics of child masturbation (information is included about teens).
Watch this Parent Masterclass to gain a better understanding of why your teen might be masturbating, and how to respond.
Unsure of how to respond when your teen is curious about diversity in genitals?
Curiosity about the differences between penises and vulvas is common (as they worry that theirs arenāt ānormalā), so hereās my resource list about diversity in genitals.
Unsure of how to talk about puberty?
Look at my Puberty 101 information page as it has everything you need to know about puberty.
Grab my Parentsā Guide to Puberty as it will help you get started with understanding and supporting your teen as they go through puberty.
These are the 10 best puberty books and are the books I always seem to be recommending to parents. This is the list to refer to if you find the following lists overwhelming!
Looking for a puberty book that is written specifically for your daughter (or a child with ovaries)? This list sorts the puberty books for girls into the books that do and donāt talk about sex.
Looking for a puberty book that is specifically written for your son (or a child with testicles)? This list sorts the puberty books for boys into the books that do and donāt talk about sex, as well as whether intact and/or circumcised penises are shown.
Looking for a puberty book that is inclusive for LGBTQIA+ children? Then this is the list of inclusive sex ed and puberty books.
This is a list of puberty books for 14 year olds sorted into books written for boys, girls and ALL children.
Need to talk about periods?
Look at my Puberty 101 information page as it has everything you need to know about periods.
Looking for a period tracker app that is safe and designed for tweens and teens? This is an inclusive, non-gendered period tracking app that includes educational content written by me, and avoids the privacy issues in period apps that were highlighted by Roe Vs. Wade in the USA. You can find the Tempus ā Teen Period Tracker at the App Store or the Google Play Store.
Unsure about whether a first period is on itās way? Complete my First Period Quiz to learn whether itāll be sooner (or later).
Looking for a book that is mainly about periods? This list contains the period books that have been written for kids. The most comprehensive and cost effective option is the Tempus Period Tracker app (as it includes over 300 age-appropriate Q&A).
Got a teen who has already seen online porn? Or is regularly viewing it?
Grab my Parent Masterclass on what to do when your teen has seen porn as it will walk you through what to do.
Start talking to your child about online porn in an age-appropriate way that helps them to make smart decisions with the Porn Talk Course.
Keep your devices safe for your child by doing a step-by-step check on every device in your house with this Tech Check Workbook.
Look at my Pornography 101 page to learn more about how to protect your teen from online porn, including information about parental controls and sexting.
Unsure of how to start sex-ed conversations? Or the different ways to have a conversation?
Here are all the blogposts that explain the different sex education strategies for starting conversations with your teen.
Got a teen who is asking questions and you donāt know how to answer them?
Read this blogpost to learn why it is important to answer sex-ed questions from kids.
Grab my popular Sex Ed Answer Book that gives you age-specific answers to the most common questions kids ask parents (about sex).
Got a teen who is uninterested in talking with you about love, sex and relationships?
Read this blogpost as it will give you some tips on what to do when theyāre not interested, plus it will inspire you to not give up!
Worried about something your teen is doing?
Look at this page as it has over 30 of the most common concerns parents have about their kids that are relevant to sex education.
Watch this Parent Masterclass on what to do when you are worried about sexual behaviour in your teen.
Whatās OK? ā A free American site that is both a website and a helpline that offers free confidential support and resources to youth and young adults (ages 14-21) with concerns about their own or a friendās sexual thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. This is a site that gives them answers to questions they would usually be too ashamed to ask. These are some of their most common questions and I think all teens should know it exists:
- Is this normal sexual behavior? Is it safe?
- Is what Iām attracted to ānormalā?
- What do I do if my sexual behaviors have harmed someone?
- What do I do if Iām worried about someone elseās sexual interests or behaviors?
- What kind of help is available if Iām struggling with safe sexual behaviors or worried about my attractions?
- Where can I find help if Iāve been sexually abused?
- How can I stay safe in online relationships?
- How do I ask for help?
The Line – An Australian site that helps young people (14+) have healthy, happy and respectful relationships, and avoid behaviours that hurt, intimidate or diminish others. They have content for parents and it is essential reading for all parents of teens!
Unsure of what books to read? Or videos to watch?
Read this blogpost to find sex education books that are suitable for 14 year olds.
My favourite ten best sex education books that includes books for older teens!
Sex education parenting books to help with starting these conversations.
My sex education video resources page.
Wishing you had a community of like-minded parents who wonāt think you are weird for wanting to do sex education?
Join that parent group. My free Facebook group where parents help each other with sex education!
Anyway, that should get you started with teaching your child about sex in a non-awkward, shame-free and natural way! And this is where you can find the other age-by-age sex education guides.
