Here you will find some essential books pre-teens should read about growing up. Books that talk about puberty, love, sex and relationships. All the stuff that will start to interest your pre-teen more, as the sex hormones of puberty start to change the way they think about life.
Having books on this stuff for pre-teens means that they have a reliable source for information on topics that they may be too embarrassed to ask you about. And if you don’t provide it for them, they will just go and look for it themselves. Which often means turning to google where they find highly sexualised information that they may not be ready for.
Many parents worry that they will be sexualising their pre-teen by giving them this information about sex or that they are giving them permission to be sexual. This is far from the truth. If your pre-teen isn’t quite ready for that amount of information they will either not bother to read it (as it doesn’t interest them), or they will quickly forget about it (as it didn’t make sense because they didn’t understand it). You can read more in this article about some of the doubts that parents have about sex education. And you can read in this article about the advantages of empowering your pre-teen with this knowledge.
This list of essential books pre-teens should read includes books that talk about puberty, being online, love, sex and relationships. The list has been divided up into the different ages, just to make it easier for you.
You can find more books about different topics in the main list of Sex Education Books for Children.
And if you find this list a little overwhelming, you might want to look at the age-appropriate list of sex education books.
You’ll find more information about sex education in my Sex Education 101 page.
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Books for preteens about sex education
Below you’ll find all the individual books about emotions and feelings. Just click the book that interests you to learn more.
NOTE: Before passing any book to your child or reading the book with your child, you should read it yourself first. I might think it is a great book for a certain age child or that the information is valuable, but you may disagree. You need to choose books that reflect your values and the messages you want your child to receive.
Books for 10 year olds
Books for 11 year olds
Books for 12 year olds
These are some of the many books that pre-teens should read as they are growing up. As I find more, I will add them to this list. They are all really good books that you will find useful for starting the puberty conversation.
Resources to help with talking about puberty
My mission is to create resources that will help you to naturally talk to your kids about sex, all while respecting your personal values.
Which means that inside this website, you’ll find lots of resources to help you with talking to your child about puberty.
My Puberty 101 page includes all of the information on puberty. You’ll find lots of different blog posts to help with talking to your child about growing up.
You’ll find videos about puberty in my Sex Education Videos resource page that you can watch with your child or to learn more about puberty yourself.
You’ll also find an extensive range of children’s books on puberty, for kids of all ages.
If you get stuck and feel that you need some extra support with talking to your child about puberty, then my book, The Parents’ Guide to Puberty, may be helpful. It’s a straightforward common sense guide that will help you to start having honest conversations that will guide your child through puberty, and strengthen your relationship without feeling embarrassed, awkward or nervous.
Or maybe you’re looking for a video course to sit down and watch together with your child. My friend Rowena from Amazing Me has created a fantastic 2 part interactive course for parents/carers to attend together with their 9 to 12 year old. It’s fun, educational and age-appropriate! You can learn more about her puberty course here.
If you have a child who is expecting their first period, then you may want to consider period pants. Period pants are fantastic for kids who are worried that they won’t know that their period has started until it stains through their clothing for the world to see. My favourite brand for tweens and teens is ModiBodi, as they are good quality and quite absorbent.
If you need some help with explaining sexual intercourse to your child, then How to Talk to Kids About Sex will help you explain sex to your child in a way they will understand. It breaks sex down into simple steps that take the stress out of explaining!
If you’re unsure about how to answer your child’s questions about sex, then I have the perfect book for you! The Sex Education Answer Book will give you age-specific answers to the most common questions kid’s ask parents about sex. Which means you don’t need to worry about finding a child-friendly explanation that your child understands.
And if you get stuck, feel free to get in touch! You can contact me here.